Grace at Dinner
The Holy Gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ, according to Luke (14:1, 7-14)
On one occasion when Jesus was going to the house of a leader of the Pharisees to eat a meal on the sabbath, they were watching him closely.
When he noticed how the guests chose the places of honor, he told them a parable. “When you are invited by someone to a wedding banquet, do not sit down at the place of honor, in case someone more distinguished than you has been invited by your host; and the host who invited both of you may come and say to you, `Give this person your place,’ and then in disgrace you would start to take the lowest place. But when you are invited, go and sit down at the lowest place, so that when your host comes, he may say to you, `Friend, move up higher’; then you will be honored in the presence of all who sit at the table with you. For all who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.”
He said also to the one who had invited him, “When you give a luncheon or a dinner, do not invite your friends or your brothers or your relatives or rich neighbors, in case they may invite you in return, and you would be repaid. But when you give a banquet, invite the poor, the crippled, the lame, and the blind. And you will be blessed, because they cannot repay you, for you will be repaid at the resurrection of the righteous.”
In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit, Amen.
Is it just me, or does our Gospel text seem like the sort of advice you might read in a Dear Abby column? And I say that with all respect. I mean, this is good advice. Hopefully all of here can recognize that. Hopefully we all know the wisdom of modesty when at a dinner party or banquet. We all know that there are certain things you just don’t do—particularly if you don’t want to appear to be someone who thinks a little too highly of himself. It just seems strange, it seems more like etiquette than Gospel proclamation.
Of course, even if this text is etiquette, it is at least Godly etiquette. That is, the text has a lot in common with the Wisdom tradition in the Hebrew Bible. After all, Jesus is almost quoting Proverbs 25:6–7, where the Teacher of Wisdom advises, “Do not put yourself forward in the king’s presence or stand in the place of the great; for it is better to be told, ‘Come up here,’ than to be put lower in the presence of a noble.” As Wisdom literature, this text makes sense because Wisdom literature is an important part of our Biblical canon. Wisdom literature is all about guiding us on how to live wisely, about knowing how to act in certain situations. Most wisdom literature is stuff you should know. And I imagine that many would hear this text from Jesus and take it as that, as pure Wisdom, and find that to be enough.
In this line of thinking, then, Jesus is talking about good manners, about proper etiquette, about the way you should act when you are invited somewhere. You shouldn’t take the best seat, instead take a bad seat because it’s better to be invited to one better than to be asked to move. Of course it is. Similarly, we all know that you shouldn’t throw a party with the expectation that someone will repay you. You should offer the party as a gift. Naturally there are social expectations about gratitude and that sort of thing, but the most important social rule is that if you are hosting, you are hosting as a gift with no expectation of getting something in return. Of course this is the case.
Yet, Luke seems to think this text is about more than clarifying a few points of social etiquette, whether for his first century audience or for us twenty-first century followers of Christ (who sometimes still forget these rules of behavior). It’s even more than the Wisdom tradition of God’s people. Luke says in verse 7 that these two scenarios are a parable. We’re familiar with parables, particularly some of the more common ones like the parable of the Good Samaritan. Parable is a word that literally means to “throw alongside.” It’s a word that describes stories of everyday life which Jesus throws alongside the kingdom of God to cast light on what that kingdom is about. So if we see this text this way, not just as wise advice for everyday living, but wise advice which is then cast alongside the kingdom, what will we see?
Perhaps we’ll see how this text sheds light, how it illuminates, other texts about eating and drinking in the New Testament. We’ll see how Jesus’ advice here illuminates his choice often to eat with tax collectors and sinners. We’ll perhaps see how this text illuminates what Jesus says elsewhere about the importance of the poor in the kingdom. And when Jesus says that the humble will be exalted, we’ll see how that illuminates his life from his birth among the poor to his crippling death on the cross. We’ll see how Jesus’ whole life was a self-giving offering for others. And perhaps a little conversation about proper matters will illuminate that self-giving should permeate our entire lives, even the seemingly small interactions we have every day.
I think we’ll also see how the Pharisees had begun to misunderstand the true nature of their religion—and even where that misunderstanding came from. The Pharisees are a group that was deeply concerned with purity and ritual cleanliness, particularly as it related to table-fellowship. With Judaism under the Roman boot in the first century, the Pharisees had increasingly focused on ritual purity, even importing temple ideas of purity into every day life. That is, feeling the press of the Gentile Roman Empire upon their people, the Pharisees do what most any group would do: they seek security and a sense of some control over their lives by enforced purity around them. They use their religion as a way of setting themselves apart and they use their meals as places to codify that distinction. Finding security in commonality and meals, they come to dinner and try to find the best places. They host dinners and invite those who will fit their guidelines and preconceived notions. And for all of this, for this approach to table-fellowship, they are condemned.
The common line of thinking when it comes to questions of table-fellowship in the Bible is usually how difficult it is for us to understand what it’s all about. And that might seem to be the case. It might seem like all of the obsessive regulations about who you eat with and how you ritually cleanse yourself, even the question of where to sit and who to invite, that all of that is just from a time that is outside of our own cultural relationships. It might seem like that.
But, of course, it was not too long ago that it was a dangerous act for someone to eat at the wrong lunch counter. Still today, the people who we sit down to eat with often look an awful lot like us. This is true whether it is those we gather to eat with in our own homes or whether it is those who we gather with at the Eucharistic table. Sunday morning is, after all, the most segregated time during the week. And even in our own community, the demographics of churches in Grand Haven swing significantly more white than our population, with many Hispanic members of our community, for example, choosing to go to Holland to worship. A significant point that Jesus is making in this text from Luke is that the kingdom reaches out to all people and so we should reach out to all people. We should perhaps even find our hearts convicted by our own practices of table fellowship. And yet, reaching out to others is a real challenge.
But I think it’s also a blessing. It’s a blessing because we need to remember that just as Jesus ate with sinners and tax collectors, with all of those people others would generally avoid, Jesus also at with the Pharisees. Even the Pharisees, it seems, are invited to the table in the Kingdom. And that makes me kind of hopeful. Because if the Pharisees are invited, then you and I—whose behavior is sadly sometimes not much better than the Pharisees—then you and I are invited as well. We are challenged, make no mistake, we are certainly challenged like the Pharisee in our text. We are challenged to pay attention to the traditions of Wisdom, to better pattern our lives after the demands of the kingdom. We’re challenged…. but we’re not turned away.
So, Jesus tells us, you who are invited despite your prejudices, despite your tendency to stick to those who look like you, when you throw a banquet, don’t invite your friends. Invite the poor. Invite the crippled. Invite the lame. Invite the blind. This isn’t about simple charity, however. Jesus is using these groups as shorthand for those his society ignored. And though our society is not much better, it would be an error to think that the groups Jesus mentions are the only ones he’s calling us to reach out to. Jesus is calling you to reach out to any of those groups you are separated from. The kingdom of God is about recognizing that God often speaks most clearly through those whom society deems less important, those whom our community would prefer remain invisible. The kingdom of God is about recognizing that God speaks most clearly through those whom we deem less important.
And in this day and age, where the communication explosion that has come with the internet has resulted in a plethora of cable channels, niche blogs, and online discussion forums, where all of this means that we never have to have a conversation with someone with whom we disagree because we can always retreat to be around those who agree with us, this lesson from the Gospel is important. Because Jesus is saying that we shouldn’t just talk to those who disagree with us, we shouldn’t just have good dialogue with those with opposing views or in different groups. We should invite them to dinner. And in that action, Jesus suggest, we’ll find a foretaste of the heavenly banquet, a banquet where everyone is called to feast around God’s table.
Now it’s tempting to take all of this and to try to do better about engaging others, but still to miss one key point. Even though you and I often think of ourselves as those with a right to be here, as those who Jesus may be calling humbly to invite others to the table, this text is about more than us trying humbly to invite those whom we would rather avoid to our banquet. We must always remember that, as Gentiles, our inclusion at this table was a gift. The early church spent a significant portion of the first century fighting about whether God wanted us to be a part of this kingdom. And in the end, we were allowed in. We must remember that in this heavenly banquet, you and I are the poor who did not expect to be invited. Our invitation here is a gift for which the early Christians fought. It’s not our banquet.
And yet here we are. You and me. Sometimes Pharisaical in our desire to look right, certainly struggling in our ability to share a meal with those we dislike, but most importantly, Gentiles who have been invited in. Here we are, invited right up to the best place in the room, at the altar, where Christ becomes present, welcoming us all. Here we are.
When you recognize this, when you recognize your invitation as a gift, you are just grateful to be here. You are just grateful to be here, rubbing elbows with the crippled and the lame, with the Pharisees and the Zealots, with the Republicans and the Democrats, the Gay and the straight, the citizens and the immigrants, the proud and the broken, all of us invited nonetheless to join in this feast.
And if we can see this vision, if we can see this vision of the Messianic banquet where we find ourselves, despite our doubts and fears invited nonetheless, if we can see this vision, then perhaps we will look around us and ask, “Who is God calling me to invite to dinner?”
Lord of all power and might, the author and giver of all good things: Graft in our hearts the love of your Name; increase in us true religion; nourish us with all goodness; and bring forth in us the fruit of good works; through Jesus Christ our Lord, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God for ever and ever. Amen.